Doctor, Heal Thyself

I have not announced it here, but I have written a book, Courage One Day At a Time - Your Guide to Surviving Unemployment. And, like most authors, I have been in the process of collecting rejection slips from agents. No matter how nice the notes and letters from agents are, no is still no.

And, like so many of you, money is an issue.

This morning was not a great time for me. I did get a bit discouraged. The best cure for discouragement? Activity that moves you toward a goal. My goals: help folks get through this period of unemployment and find help in getting them going toward their new life; find ways to get my message out and give people the information I have learned the hard way; and, to try and find a way to get my book into your hands. And, I need to make a bit of money. Not so unlike most of you.

So, I went through my email addresses and started sending out a few notes. Several people answered, but one in particular, Gail wrote back and we exchanged emails in which she gave me specific steps to follow to promote myself and my work. By the end of the second exchange I was beginning to get excited about what I can do, should do, and how to take the next step. Gail gave me so many ideas and suggestions, that I was overwhelmed. Now, I have to make a plan.

The lesson is that there are people who want to help you. Go through your friends, people you know, anyone who might help you as you begin your new life. you are not alone. There are people who want to help you, if asked or given the chance. Give them the chance!

When you write them, don't complain and don't be depressed - a word that's used too often. Be upbeat. Share a victory with them. If you need help, ask them their opinion or what your next step should be. Let them give you suggestions. Think about what they have to say. Value their opinions - after all, you did ask them. You will gain a new perspective on how to achieve your goal.

While you are at it, if you have an idea for them, don't be afraid to give it. It shows you care about them and their situation. The communication is a two way street - it's not all about you. It's about sharing ideas and helping others, as well. Taking the time to think about others will place your current jobless state into perspective.

You know what - it works and it was proven to me again, just today. Great things can happen when you are open to them.